Once we bring our kittens home, our lives change instantly. We have a new obsession that purrs and is covered in magical fur that makes us feel good whenever they get close. The endless photos on our phones, the warm and fuzzy feeling they give us, and of course, with all the love we give them, we can only hope that feeling is reciprocated.
But, all too often, our feline friends will decide they like our significant other more than us. It’s hard not to feel a little angry about the situation, and rightfully so. If you’re wondering, “Why does my cat prefer my husband to me?” you’re not the first. Read on to find out why your precious kitten prefers your husband…
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Cats like to be in control.
Your cat is the dominant player in your relationship, whether you like it or not.
Your cat is the dominant player in your relationship, whether you like it or not. Because, after all, cats can do whatever they want. Think about the dynamics of your relationship with your cat. Do you go to your cat to get love from them, or do you let your cat decide when it’s time to show you affection?
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In short, your cat is a giant control freak. If we choose not to relinquish that control, our cats may choose to dominate another person in our family…usually our husband.
Who feeds the cat?
We all know cats just love to eat. Cats are masters who let people feed them as they command. You may be the rule follower or the one who makes the laws, while your husband or boyfriend, on the other hand, is quick to give in to the kitten’s food orders.
Also, your cat’s feeding schedule may have something to do with it. Let’s say your husband is an early riser, and the kitten knows that. If your husband feeds your cat frequently, or is quick to give in to your cat’s commands for treats, this could be a reason why your cat prefers your husband to you.
Why does my cat sleep with my husband and not me?
Cats are known to like warmth—and they like heat. This may be why your cat prefers to sleep on your husband.
Your cat may prefer your husband because he is warmer.
Fighting over the thermostat is common in married couples’ homes. More often than not, a woman freezes when her husband channels his inner polar bear and asks to turn down the thermostat. Cats are known to like warmth—and they like heat.
This may be why your cat prefers to sleep on your husband. He probably gives off more body heat than you do, and no matter the season, cats love to be friendly and toasty.
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ask yourself: Who can give a cat love on a cat’s terms?
When it comes to cats, everything comes down to preferences strictly on their terms. This involves eating, sleeping, and especially relationships.
Even the friendliest of felines will probably be quick to let you know that they like to show affection in their own way and only in their own way. So, if you’re someone who demands affection from your kitty, they’ll keep that in mind. And, if your husband is the opposite, well, they’ll remember that!
They might even snub you – or give you the infamous peep. Try not to let it hurt your feelings. Remember, cats aren’t inherently vicious creatures—no matter how nasty they look sitting on your husband’s lap.
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Think about how children usually bond more closely with one parent; cats can be similar in this way.
Cats and humans can share many traits. Favoring one parent is one of them. If you have human children, you know this all too well.
Or just think back to when you were a kid, because chances are you had a preference for one of your parents. Your cat may prefer your husband to you because they feel more comfortable with them. It’s not that your cat doesn’t like you.
Maybe your husband doesn’t fidget when he sits, or maybe your cat trains him a lot more than you do. Regardless, it’s completely natural and normal for cats to choose one of their human parents over the other.
Your cat may like your husband more than you because that’s who they bond with first
Try not to get angry if your cat chooses your husband over you.
Often, when a cat chooses a husband, it’s not necessarily because of something you’ve done. Also, many times female cats naturally prefer males and vice versa. The same can be said for many dogs. It’s a bit like the saying “Daddy Mother” in the world.
Try not to get angry if your cat chooses your husband over you. Even if this seems particularly frustrating, try to appreciate that your cat feels loved by someone in your family. A cat is a cat, and that sometimes means your cat will like your husband more than you.
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A cat is a cat, and that sometimes means your cat will like your husband more than you.
frequently asked questions
Why does my cat like my roommate more than me?
If your cat chooses your roommate over you, try not to get mad. Even if this seems particularly frustrating, try to appreciate that your cat feels loved by someone in your family. Also, if your housemate is feeding your cat a lot, this may be the reason your cat prefers your housemate to you.
Why does my male cat prefer my husband?
Cats are known to like warmth—and they like heat. This may be why your male cat prefers to sleep on top of your husband.
Why does my cat like my boyfriend more than me?
Your cat may like your boyfriend more than you, since that’s probably the first person they’ll ever meet. Try being the one who feeds the cat frequently, or quickly yields to the cat’s treat commands to create a stronger bond with her.
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